THE RELATIONSHIP!!

In a releationship, there should be GIVE AND TAKE.Communication is a must in every relationship. In our parents or frens or boyfriend/girlfren, spouses. Interaction is important so that we could understnad them more and develop closer relationship. having a relationship is a continous process and it is LIFETIME!!According to psychologist Steve Stephens, PHD, author of LOST IN TRANSLATIONS, "They're so subtle that often they don't create conflict in the moment, but when they happen, consistently, they can make partners fee less connected".
It is important for the couple to recognize the need of communication. Often couple just HEAR their partner talking but not really LISTENING. There is big differnece between these two words.
HEARING is merely acccepting what your partner talking without keeping it or understanding it. LISTENING is when we really abosrbed the message of a giver, we keep it in our hearts and understand it. If you observed, the way the coples speak to each other are different from talking with their friends. Because they're so used to be together, they thought they really know each other and they have the same entity. The figured out its not really necessary to talk or ask what their partners wanted. So there will be feelings of ignoring.
It is easily fixed with this problem. Just be deliberate when you're talking to your partner. Listen carefully what your partner is saying, be sensitive enough for each other;s feelings.
Sometimes when we want to talk with our partner, the timing is not good. Most of the guys are so focused when thye're doing something like watching their favorite NBA games, they're really distracted. You can't talked to them. According to Stephens."Men cant' mentally multi task" On the other side, men usually brings serious topic when the girsl are so busy such as getting ready to work or budgetting the finance in the house... Actuallly men are intended to do that because men dont want deep conversation. So its better when the girl is preoccupied with something else so the conversation will not be really deep and serious.
It's better to ask to your partner if it is right time to talked when you're both ready. When we picked the wrong timing, the person being bothered becomes annoyed and the person initiating the conversation will feel dismissed.
Most of the women love to tell stories to their boyfriends. Every detailed of like what happened to their outing and lots more. At first , the guy is interested but later on he will get tired of listening. Stephens said" Guys have a three minutes window where they can listen closely, but when your description goes on longer than that, you've lost him" And the girl will get mad to the guy.
There is way how to prevent this conflict. Im not saying GIRLS DONT TALK!! Just be senstive to the guys, Invoved them in the story. Like ask them questions too so that they could feel the're involved in that conversation.
Another thing is about HONESTY. Honesty is important in relationship so that it could grow and TRUST. Learn to build trust with each other . For me relationship should have these following:

• TRUST/HONESTY
• RESPECT
• ACCEPTANCE
• LOYALTY
• LOVE

I hope we all could find our real partner. It's not okay if its not ideal but the most important thing is it is REAL.